The Relationship Dial – Where is your Relationship status?
1) Casual or best friends of the opposite sex – a kiss and hug hello, never any sex – just Buddies – plain and simple; a line of sexual intimacy is never crossed. Usually these people are life-long friends.
2) Friends with Benefits – Friends who have become sexual, but clearly have no desire to ever have an exclusive love relationship – this is a sexual only arrangement, and one many women consider disrespectful and want no parts of. It can really mess up a friendship as well, because usually one person wants more in the relationship.
3) New Relationship Status – Two people meet – there is chemistry, fun, and attraction – once they get to talking, they feel something more as they discover WHO the person is from their heart, life’s journey, and future intentions. Kisses are shared, and there are sparks! A possibility for a deeper relationship is seen by both, but it is too new to tell.
4) New Intimate Relationship – So the couple above progresses to sexual intimacy – they discover – the sex is great! Another fabulous thing in common, and they become more open and free with each other. Both feel they can “be themselves” and feel safe in sharing their emotions. Both feel the other person is quite special. Feelings become deeper, conversations more meaningful – but their relationship is still “new” and very exciting, and both wonder, “could there be more to this?” They need more time to tell and get to know each in a more in-depth way, and they both decide this is worth more time and effort. They have to be careful that this is not only about the great sex – once that line has been crossed.
5) Exclusive Relationship – Yes! This is GREAT, and BOTH feel they want this relationship to happen. Both would like to be out of the dating scene, and dedicate their time and energy to only the other person to see where their relationship will go. They call each other their – girlfriend/boyfriend – to others, and upon introduction. They start introducing this person to friends and family. They talk real and open about where they are in life, and how this relationship could really work. They talk plans about a future, and share concerns, financial/personal/business goals and how this could all come together, despite any obstacles. Plans to proceed are made together. Both make the efforts to see one another, keep in touch, and discuss their progress as things move along. Both are supportive of the other, and are patient because they see a future together. They easily express their love to the other with words and actions.
Riana Mine is a Marriage/Family therapist at Therapy by the Sea, a Certified Relationship Coach, author, and motivational speaker in Egg Harbor Township, NJ. Her column in http://www.shorenewstoday.com, My Relationship Coach will discuss the relationship you have with yourself and others. Her free App: My Relationship Coach offers more articles and her book, Live Beyond Your Dreams addresses various relationships. To learn more or suggest a topic, go to www.RianaMilne.com or email RianaMilne@gmail.com